Why is my friend being so unsupportive of my relationship with my husband and my pregnancy?

I have a really amazing husband. And my friend constantly gives me bad unasked for advice on my marriage and pregnancy. Me and my husband never fight, he’s never said anything mean to me or done anything wrong, he’s so attentive and we have all the same goals in life. I’m now 36 weeks pregnant and have had a really easy pregnancy. I didn’t look or feel pregnant at all until about a month ago. I only stopped working 2 weeks ago and plan on going back after maternity leave as I work in the family business and can take baby with me.  My husband works very hard long hours as a fitter/machinist.
I think my husband can do no wrong. My friend thou feels different. I sometimes feel she is trying to make us fight and gives me stupid pregnancy advice. She says i “wait on him like a slave” and “I am doing damage to my baby by doing housework” and gives me silly advice about money even thou she’s horribly in debt and we own 2 houses. I dont see myself as a slave. Yes we  conform to a more traditionalist lifestyle but that’s because it suits us. She told me to stop doing all housework and make him do it, but he works really long  hard hours and is so tired so why would I force him to clean. I do try  really hard to make him happy but that doesn’t make me a slave. He does all his parts to earn what I do for him. He buys me flowers, rubs my pregnant feet, gives me all the money and treats me like a queen. I do things like… He wakes for work at 5 so I wake up early aswell cos i like to keep the same hours and i make him coffee and pancakes, French toast, or an English breakfast.(she says this is dumb) I lay his work clothes out ironed, make him fancy lunches, and always have dinner ready when he comes home, I do all the housework, I also give him back massages every second night as he gets sore with all the lifting. I really love to cook so it’s lucky he isn’t fussy. I also bake cookies, pies, pastries and cakes for him(not me thou… Diabetic). She tells me to stop having sex with him saying im too far along and will have a stillborn?? Tells me to stop doing housework altogether and just stay in bed?? Don’t walk the dog while pregnant??(but I like walking the dog after he gets home from work) stop cooking him dinner?? (what will I eat then?) she complained cos I made and froze 3 dozen meals in the freezer for him to eat when I’m in hospital and the weeks before and after to make it easier. She said he should make his own. But what’s wrong with me making it? She complained that I’ll have a stillborn from vacuuming everyday… Or even once a week. But with 2 long hair indoor cats and a 60kg great Dane who lives inside I really have to vacuum every day cos they shed hair absolutely everywhere. She says i have to stop all housework… She complained that I pick up the dog poop in the backyard? But I sorta have to. I dont wanna avoid using the backyard all day cos it’s got poop everywhere… Great Danes really do crap everywhere. She even gave me attitude cos I put a little makeup and perfume on before he gets home from work.  I do all the gardening but that’s cos I like gardening… She tells me to get rid of my dog. But thats my baby and she’s a really great dog, she doesn’t bark, bite or even notice babies in prams when I walk her. Very laid back lazy dog. She says I’ll “hate the dog and everything I have to do for it when the baby comes out” and that ” you’ll have to learn how to devote ur life to the baby and forget about ur husband” why would I forget about him? ” get rid of ur cats cos u won’t have time for them”. So if it were up to her I would hang around her house all day, throw away all our pets, stop doing housework, stop cooking, stop wearing makeup and eventually get a divorce. Why is she being so horrible and constantly putting my husband down even thou it’s clear I don’t feel the same? I’ve never complained about him so why would she say to me “I’m gonna have a talk to ur husband about this”? That would just make it look like i complained. When I never have! I’m very happy with our life. I love looking after him, and cleaning and being pregnant. She says I need to be wrapped in cotton wool practically. But I’ve had the healthiest pregnancy. She acts like it’s “wrong” to love my husband so much. Is it cos shes never had this? Her babies father dumped her 3 weeks after telling him she was pregnant. So what’s the real reason she keeps being so mean to him? She reckons we got married to fast and young. But we were 25 and knew eachother for 6 months but I knew on out first date I wanted to marry him.
Animal hoarder? Troll alert! I’m a vet nurse who already has had toxoplasmosis so that’s a mute point. And anyway we don’t let the cats even have litter boxes in the house. They let themselves out the doggy door as I have enough “shi.t” at work that I really don’t want it at home. They are very well toilet trained.
Apparently owning 2 cats and a dog and vacuuming every day makes someone an animal hoarder.
Im definetly gonna tell her to stick it. I usually just say I have to go if she starts being weird. I think it’s jealousy. My mother says she wants me all to herself… Or my husband all to herself. She doesn’t have a partner as hers ran off after 3 years of dating 4 weeks after getting pregnant. I don’t think she has any idea what it means to be a wife or a girlfriend. Or financial responsibilities. I can’t just give up work and sit at home and let my husband do all the housework. We have 2 mortgages and a baby on the way. My family owns a veterinary surgery and I’d never wanna give up my job and sit around at home cos I love my job. I’d go insane from boredom with no housework or job.

who even answers these questions on the chrysanthemums, by steinbeck 10 points… plz help?

Question 1 (Multiple Choice Worth 5 points)

How does her conversation with the stranger become meaningful for Elisa?

They talk about their dogs, and she can see loves his dog as much as she loves hers.

She can see he is passionate about his being in the outdoors, just as she is passionate about her gardening.

She realizes she can fix the same things as he can, and views herself as his equal.

She feels good because she is able to provide some work for him, which will mean he can have supper that night.

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Question 2 (Multiple Choice Worth 5 points)

Why does Steinbeck chose to have Elisa act so strongly as she sits in her dress and rides into town with Henry, only to have her relax in the seat after passing the stranger on the road?

Steinbeck wants to show Elisa cannot concentrate after she and Henry pass the stranger, because she feels so sorry for him.

Steinbeck wants to show Elisa is so angry at the stranger, she can only relax to try to focus on have a nice time at dinner with Henry.

Steinbeck wants to show that Elisa must learn her place in society, and that she should act accordingly.

Steinbeck wants to show the role of women in general for that period of time, and that Elisa realizes she could never be the strong woman she has the actual potential to be.

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Question 3 (Multiple Choice Worth 5 points)

What is Elisa’s first impression of the stranger on the wagon?

She thinks he is there to swindle her out of some money.

She thinks he will try to steal some of their cattle or vegetables.

She views him as a way out of the life she wants to escape.

She sees he is a big man who has been aged by the traveling life he leads rather than his actual age.

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Question 4 (Multiple Choice Worth 5 points)

How does Elisa most closely match the concept of Pigasus?

She admits at times she thinks she can actually fly.

She considers her special gift of gardening to be her only way to showcase all her talent.

She has great strength and power inside, but cannot seem to find a way to let it show.

She desires to have talents and gifts she knows she can never have.

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Question 5 (Multiple Choice Worth 5 points)

Elisa agrees to let the stranger do some work for her because

she feels sorry for him.

he threatens her and she is afraid.

she feels they have made a connection with each other.

she wants him to leave quickly so Henry will not get jealous when he sees her speaking to a stanger.

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Question 6 (Multiple Choice Worth 5 points)

All of the following phrases are used to descibe Elisa in the beginning of the story except:

“Her face was lean and strong and her eyes were clear as water.”

“She wore heavy leather gloves to protect her hands while she worked.”

“The chrysanthemum stems seemed too small and easy for her energy.”

“At the back of the house she dug in the can pile and found two old and battered aluminum saucepans.”

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Question 7 (Multiple Choice Worth 5 points)

Use the following quote from the story to answer this question:

“Far ahead on the road Elisa saw a dark speck. She knew. She tried not to look as they passed it, but her eyes would not obey.”

Why does Elisa “try not to look” at what she sees in the road?

She knows the stranger has thrown her flowers down, and was only trying to get work from her.

She knows the stranger could not fix her pot, so he threw it down the road.

She knows it is a bird that has died, and cannot bring herself to look at it.

She knows Henry will be angry with her if she brings attention to it.

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Question 8 (Multiple Choice Worth 5 points)

What message about society is Steinbeck sending through this story?

Neighbors should share more with one another.

Husbands should encourage their wives.

Strangers cannot be trusted.

Strength and power can be present in some of the most unexpected people.

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Question 9 (Multiple Choice Worth 5 points)

What do the conversations between Elisa and Henry reveal about their relationship?

They spend much of their time completing separate tasks, only speaking to one another when forced to do so.

They are kind to one another,
Question 9 (Multiple Choice Worth 5 points)

What do the conversations between Elisa and Henry reveal about their relationship?

They spend much of their time completing separate tasks, only speaking to one another when forced to do so.

They are kind to one another, and recognize each other’s strengths.

Henry is clearly a dominant husband, as he does not compliment his wife.

Elisa hates living on their ranch, and longs for material things Henry cannot provide for her.

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27 year old with (dating?) a 16 year old: Help me get out of this!?

I wouldn’t even say we’re dating. I’m the sixteen year old, by the way.

The first time we met, he knew I was interested in him (because a friend of mine told him I thought he was good looking. He gave my friend his number to give to me.)
We met alone, briefly, just to introduce ourselves. And I had to leave soon so after about 3 minutes I said bye. And he kissed me (second guy I’ve ever kissed, first guy with tongue. I was very inexperienced)
When I got home, within the first five messages I received from him he asked if I was a virgin. I said yes. He said he hoped I wasn’t but that it didn’t matter. This troubled me at first, but I got over it because he was really hot and interested in me.

Deeply infatuated with him, I tried to see him the next week. We spoke on instant message (I’ll call it I.M) but he ignored my texts when I told him I was around his work. Pissed off, I got over it and confronted him over I.M and he said he was busy but he would love to hook up (kiss) again sometime.

Two weeks passed, and he was getting further and further away. We didn’t speak as much and it was really troubling me. In desperation I said I didn’t mind going as far as he wanted as long as we were safe. This got him keen and he said we would be. He asked me out on a date on a Friday (to go back to his place), and I was skeptical and said I’d rather we got to know each other better first. He said I was right, but we could still just chill out.
Anyway, on the Friday I tried to make him change his mind and watch a movie with me or have lunch (like a normal date), but he worked at the Mall we were meeting at and he’d recently resigned from that job, so he said he really didn’t want to be there.
We went back to his place, and we made out for a bit, and then things got out of hand and he asked how I felt about oral sex. And well, I was too nervous to really say no. My hands were shaking and I couldn’t speak. But afterwards he drove us for a soft drink and parked in this garden thing and we chatted in his car. Then he dropped me off again after a while.

A few weeks pass. I hear less and less from him. My friend sees him with another girl and he’s got his arm around her. She took a picture of them together and sent it to me so I know she wasn’t lying.

I didn’t confront him. A few days later he sends me a message saying he’s got a job in another country and he would be leaving in two weeks for the next two years. I freaked out. I was heavily infatuated/in love and it felt like abandonment.
So three days later I let him pick me up and we consummated our friendship/relationship/ whatever you want to call it – so that I would at least have something to remember him by. I gave him a gift and a card and he said he hoped we were more than friends. Trust me, it was as if he genuinely cared about me. He was really sweet and gentle. He tried to make it as easy for me as possible. It was protected and even used lubricant.

Two months pass. We fight twice.
I confronted him and then I deleted him, then almost instantly re-added him. He deleted me, without even saying anything. This hurt. So I texted him an essay asking him if he had a good reason. He said it was because he was leaving and he was just deleting his I.M to go.
I re-added him again, and he accepted- meaning he hadn’t deleted it.

Another week passed and he told me he actually didn’t leave because his documents didn’t get sorted etc. This made me happy. He was staying.
He got a new job that had long hours and I hardly heard from him.

Then two days ago, almost two months after he’d taken my virginity, we spoke. The longest chat we’ve ever had. It was about cars and stuff (always him, never about me). And he concluded by saying ‘He hopes he sees me soon again. He really missed me and making love to me.’

How do I get out of this? I want him so badly, but he’s not good. I think I love him, but I can do better.

I want your help to convince me to get out of this.

My marks are failing, I can’t concentrate, and my parents will probably never trust me again (they found out I lost my virginity because I did a pregnancy test at the doc. The doc didn’t seem to believe we’d used protection. It was negative.)

Like, I don’t need this. I’m 16 and I have such a bright future ahead of me…but I just can’t seem to stop liking him. Please help me!!!! I’m desperate.

He doesn’t have any qualifications, just lots of experience in hospitality etc. So he won’t even be able to support me someday.

Sometimes it seems like he really cares, and others he just ignores me. I really don’t know what to do, or if I should waste my emotions and energy on him. I really really like him, and he still wants me. So what do I do? I’m confused, heartbroken, and slowly going insane. Please help. Thank you.
Sorry the post is so long!

16 year being used by a 27 year old: How to convince yourself to get out of an unhealthy relationship?

I’m the sixteen year old, by the way.
The first time we met, he knew I was interested in him (because a friend of mine told him I thought he was good looking. He gave my friend his number to give to me.)
We met alone, briefly, just to introduce ourselves. And I had to leave soon so after about 3 minutes I said bye. And he kissed me! (second guy I’ve ever kissed, first guy with tongue. I was very inexperienced) Right then! After meeting him for 3 minutes! When I got home, within the first five messages I received from him he asked if I was a virgin. I said yes. He said he hoped I wasn’t but that it didn’t matter. This troubled me at first, but I got over it because he was really hot and interested in me. Deeply infatuated with him, I tried to see him the next week. We spoke on instant message (I’ll call it I.M) but he ignored my texts when I told him I was around his work. Pissed off, I got over it and confronted him over I.M and he said he was busy but he would love to hook up (kiss) again sometime. Two weeks passed, and he was getting further and further away. We didn’t speak as much and it was really troubling me. In desperation I said I didn’t mind going as far as he wanted as long as we were safe. This got him keen and he said we would be. He asked me out on a date on a Friday (to go back to his place), and I was skeptical and said I’d rather we got to know each other better first. He said I was right, but we could still just chill out. Anyway, on the Friday I tried to make him change his mind and watch a movie with me or have lunch (like a normal date), but he worked at the Mall we were meeting at and he’d recently resigned from that job, so he said he really didn’t want to be there. We went back to his place, and we made out for a bit, and then things got out of hand and he asked how I felt about oral sex. And well, I was too nervous to really say no. My hands were shaking and I couldn’t speak. But afterwards he drove us for a soft drink and parked in this garden thing and we chatted in his car. Then he dropped me off again after about two hours of chatting and getting to know each other.
A few weeks pass. I hear less and less from him. My friend sees him with another girl and he’s got his arm around her. She took a picture of them together and sent it to me so I know she wasn’t lying.
I didn’t confront him. A few days later he sends me a message saying he’s got a job in another country and he would be leaving in two weeks for the next two years. I freaked out. I was heavily infatuated/in love and it felt like abandonment. So three days later I let him pick me up and we consummated our friendship/relationship/ whatever you want to call it – so that I would at least have something to remember him by. I gave him a gift and a card and he said he hoped we were more than friends. Trust me, it was as if he genuinely cared about me. He was really sweet and gentle. He tried to make it as easy for me as possible. It was protected and even used lubricant.

As time passes, we fight twice. We speak less and less
I confronted him and then I deleted him, then almost instantly re-added him. He deleted me, without even saying anything. This hurt. So I texted him an essay asking him if he had a good reason. He said it was because he was leaving and he was just deleting his I.M to go.
I re-added him again, and he accepted- meaning he hadn’t deleted it.
Another week passed and he told me he actually didn’t leave because his documents didn’t get sorted etc. This made me happy. He was staying. He got a new job that had long hours and I hardly heard from him. Then two days ago, almost two months after he’d taken my virginity, we spoke. The longest chat we’ve ever had. It was about cars and stuff (always him, never about me). And he concluded by saying ‘He hopes he sees me soon again. He really missed me and making love to me.’

I need to get out of this. I need to convince myself I don’t need him and I don’t want him. Because it feels like I do need him and I really do want him around. He’s a really nice guy to me. He’s sweet and stuff. Over I.M he’s a bit of a jerk sometimes, but in person he’s really kind.

Oh and he lied about his age. He first told me he was 23, then 24, but all along he’s been 27. Instead of creeping me out, it actually flattered me. I don’t have such a great relationship with my parents, so the ‘older guy’ thing must stem from there.
I really need to convince myself out of this. Or if I stay, how do I get him to commit to me?

Thank you. Any advice I can get now would be greatly appreciated!