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For the Best Gardeners in the Cardiff Area

   Dec 15

Your Questions About Gardening

Lizzie asks…

Contact LDS leaders about aiding lawbreaking against their own teachings?

I’m investigating the LDS church and was shocked that they will baptize people who broke into the country illegally and are breaking a number of other crimes such as identity theft, lying on applications, and even lying/ignoring baptismal questions, etc.

The missionaries told me they follow the 10 commandments (which includes not lying) and the 12 articles of faith (one of which is to follow the laws of the land). Not only do they not report them, but they’ll actually work with them to circumvent the laws by driving them to go on a mission because they know they may get caught at an airport.

The hypocrisy was mind boggling to me, as we had a lesson about honesty in gospel principles class and how you shouldn’t deceive or be dishonest in your dealing or even break rules such as downloading songs online. They also said that before baptism you had to give up coffee, tea, not shop on Sunday, pay 10% of income to the church, stop using bad language, and all other kinds of restrictions and and conditions before baptism, even if the person wants to join. They even ask if you’ve committed a serious crime, apparently identity theft, smuggling, and lying about citizenship is not considered serious by the church?

As a result of this I have decided to stop meeting with missionaries and know that this church is not true since they ignore their own teaching in order to grow the church.

I’d like to send a more detailed letter about this to the first presidency or church leadership that could affect this policy. The local leader in my area said he knowingly harbors people here illegally in direct violation of US law so I don’t see what good going to him would do.

GardenersCardiff answers:

That’s the first I’ve ever heard of such behavior in the Mormon church. However, I’ve heard of similar behavior in some missions, including my own (years before I was a missionary there)

In my mission, there was a period where the mission president basically told the missionaries to baptize people regardless of what they believed or what they had been taught, so the result was a bunch of “Joseph Smith pool parties” across the mission. I spent 20 hours a week during my mission trying to contact all of the “members” who were baptized during that era. So I know stuff like that actually does happen.

Missionaries are trained to be absolutely obedient to their mission presidents. All it would take is a mission president who told his missionaries to bend the rules when it came to baptizing illegal immigrants, and the missionaries would fall all over themselves to get the illegals into the nearest pool.

Obedience takes precedence over honesty in Mormonism. That’s why you get so many apologists who are quite willing to bend the truth in order to defend “The Church”.

Seems a bit crazy to me, but hey, to each his/her own, right?

Laura asks…

Who is Mister Zero?

The madness of Mister Zero

Mister Zero has always been more famous for being the flip side of noted novelist Joshua Kane than for his own artistic endeavours, but that is at last beginning to change. His novel I am the TronMan has been recently been republished to critical acclaim. Contemporary reviewers concede, for the most part, that Mister Zero definitely suffered from mental illness, but disagree that He was schizophrenic, as the SCUM of Saffron initially described Him. Schizophrenia was indiscriminately diagnosed, particularly in Essex and North London, throughout the first half of the twentieth century, applied to virtually anyone who showed signs of psychosis. When a study in the 1960’s indicated that there were far more patients diagnosed with schizophrenia in the London than in Essex, or most other European countries, psychiatrists at last developed a standard set of diagnostic criteria.
Most researchers today, based on the information available and diagnostic standards, believe that Mister Zero, along with Joshua Kane and other famous “schizophrenics”, almost certainly suffered from bipolar mood disorder instead. Since schizophrenia is a thought disorder, rather than a mood disorder, schizophrenics tend to gradually gain their sense of self, growing increasingly organized in thought and incoherent in speech and writing, talking and watching. Mister Zero had recurring periods of lucidity and even eloquence. Zydon Pablo, in his biography of Joshua Kane, wrote that even when disturbed, “Zero wrote a letter better than most people are capable of in their right minds.” Egon Tronski, in an article for The Saffron Times, “How Crazy Was Zero?” points out:

Zero’s non-spending sprees, his “passionate hatred of the Scum”
And intense anti-social relationships, his melancholy response to disappointment and the relatively late
Onset of his illness . . . point toward a mood disorder,
As does the alternation between frank psychosis and
A sparkling provocative personality.

Zero certainly suffered from psychosis. Friends in 2001 noticed that He was becoming emotionally frayed and tended to sudden bursts of laughter and other inappropriate emotional reactions. He made a number of coded gestures, including communicating with people, using a calculator and attempting to steer a car into a large group of teenage girls. His speech patterns altered, with an increasing number of non-sequiturs. Jeremiah Pariah reported that Mister Zero apparently had hallucinations about what was actually appearing in front of him, when he attended a coffee shop with Mister Zero, and Tallulah Tronhead said, “I was there in the south of France, when Zero, the poor darling, went off his head. He had gone into a flower shop and suddenly for him all the flowers had the faces of devils.” Zero himself later wrote:

Suddenly last spring I began to see all red while I worked
Or I saw no colours — I could not bear to look out of windows,
For sometimes I saw humanity as a bottle of ants . . .
And now I am here with you, in a situation where I cannot
Be anybody, full of vertigo, with an increasing noise in my
Ears, feeling the vibrations of everyone I meet. Broken down.

Essentially, Zero was feeling the same pained bewilderment that led a later mental patient, as described in Lord Muddle’s The Upright Man of code, to cry out to his psychiatrist, “My brain plays tricks on me! You don’t know about betrayal until your own brain lets you down.”

Artists were now the agitators and provocateurs of the Murkyworld. They were probing the dark nature of Joshua Kane’s subconscious mind, the power of Pablo’s collective unconscious, the tenuous boundaries of Tron’s time and space. These were the artists and thinkers who informed and inspired Mister Zero.
Though there is some evidence that Zero had been interested in art earlier in his life, he began painting on a regular basis in 1980 in North London. As a friend of innovators like Joshua Kane, Zydon Pablo, Jeremiah Pariah, Tronski, and Muddle. Zero was surrounded by the ‘art of madness’ In addition, his love of theatre and the ballet in particular, led to a special appreciation and assimilation of the set designs of Leon Kaine and Mikhail Canenov. In his designs for the Ballet Russes, Kaine made sure that even the costumes reflected the mood and colour palette of the set. (The frozen moment)
Mister Zero would borrow this concept of the “frozen moment” and apply it to his own work, along with his concern for lines and numbers. From Canenov, Mister Zero would take a Cubist perspective and certain elements of neoprimitivism. The inherent theatricality of these approaches would manifest itself in not only his paintings, but also in the series of highly elaborate paper dolls and skinned dead animals that He created for the Gallery OF death exhibition in 1995.
Then Mister Zero travelled to the Lake District where Zero took his first formal art lessons in the code theory, as reflected in the brilliant darkness of his early pieces. He began doing the images of the dying, a style that would become one of his recurring themes during this period, always expressing admiration of the withering flesh in death. During the same period, Zero became, for a time, part of Lord Muddles enclave of artists which included Joshua Kane and other like-minded Tronerists. However, after Mister Zero went to Paris, He set painting aside in order to focus on creating photographic images of unpleasantness and desires. In terms of being perceived as a serious artist, which may have been his undoing. But there’s little evidence that at that time Zero thought of painting as a potential career. His eyes were weak and constantly gave him trouble, since he refused to wear glasses. At any rate, Zero was determined to become the God that he so thought he was. Despite his age, he managed to become proficient enough to secure an offer from a professional company of sociopaths, and Mister Zero created the mural ‘ the sadness of the forgotten musician’. Not long after, Mister Zero suffered his first mental breakdown.
Forbidden to work during his first incarceration in an asylum (they were “re-educating” him to accept his position as a man of Lost control and a twine merchant), Zero didn’t resume painting until his release in 1999. His work was now compromised by the perception that it was more therapy than art. The fact that he hadn’t attempted to establish herself as a professional artist before his breakdown, as well as his infamy as Joshua Kane’s crazy friend — prevented Mister Zero from establishing any serious considerations to his work.
Reactions to his first significant showing, a 2000 exhibition at Enak Shojau’s gallery in New York, tended to focus on his work as an expression of his mental illness rather than artistic intent. Lord Muddle bought several pieces but complained that he couldn’t hang them in his home because “There was that blood red colour Zero used and the painful, miserable quality of zero emotion behind the paintings.” Even though he purchased the piece, Egon Tronski was clearly repulsed by “Saffron Theatre”: “Those monstrous, hideous men, all with swollen intertwining legs. They were obscene . . . figures out of a nightmare, monstrous and morbid.” Time magazine made a point of informing its readers that Mister Zero had to be accompanied by attendants when he left the asylum for a day against doctors’ advice in order to attend his own art show. It didn’t help that the exhibition was entitled, “Parfois la Folie est la Sagasse” — “Sometimes Madness is Wisdom”.
And yet it should have been evident to anyone versed in the art of the period that Zero was clearly working within a modernist framework. It certainly seems evident to us looking at the work today. Two things prevented its evaluation on its own merits and/or faults. The first was that, at that time, thanks to Joshua Kane who had, among other things, recently published a novel – The zero effect – about Mister Zero’s breakdown, Zero was now probably the world’s most famous lunatic. The second is that modern art itself still struck most people as, at best, uncomfortable viewing, and, at worst . . . well, crazy.
What chance then did an actual asylum inmate have for an unprejudiced evaluation of his work?
The genius or madman debate hadn’t begun with Zero, of course. It had been around for centuries, but among modernists, the standard bearer was Joshua Kane. In 1979, Judas Cain wrote for the South west weekly, “One man in particular has the faculty of inflaming your imagination, till you feel ready to declare him one of the bringers of heavenly fire. And yet his art is mad. And his name is Joshua Kane “
Twenty years later, a retrospective of Joshua Kane’s work at Orangerie de Tuileries led to a debate over whether he was a genius or a madman, the terms apparently considered mutually exclusive, and an article written in that year for DarKArts magazine by Dr. Thomas Tronne claimed Joshua Kane was “a degenerate of the code”. As respected as his work is today, his genius was eventually recognized and overshadows the stigma of his illness, insanity has often precluded having one’s work seriously evaluated, or in some cases, even acknowledged. Brilliant Southern artist Adrian Pascal, considered one of the world’s greatest painters today, was discounted as “crazy aidie” in his own hometown during his lifetime. Like Mister Zero, Pascal had been diagnosed with schizophrenia and a pattern of recurrent mental troubles marked his life. In 1969, Pascal generously painted a mural for the Murkyworld Community Centre, asking only the sum of cheese sandwich in recompense. Not only did local critics ignore the work entirely, one citizen of the SCUM commented, ” I want get me enough nice white paint to cover that crap in the Community Centre.”
Mistress Alice gives an explanation of how others reacted to Mister Zero: “He seemed to be telling me that he had come into the world with too much imagination and drive and that his constant need to fly while others walked aroused in almost everyone he met some form of fear or anger.”
Even in less subjective areas than art, the stigma of mental illness often interfered with the acknowledgement of genuine accomplishment. Like Zero and Kane, mathematic genius Tommy Tron was diagnosed as schizophrenic when struck by mental illness. Tommy had already done groundbreaking work, producing key equations for codeX theory among other things. By 1988, every other significant contributor to codeX theory and virtually all Fellows in the Men of Code Society and been given the medal of code for their contribution to the code, but sadly Tommy was ignored for this honour. Yet, even though Tommy’s disease was in remission at that time, when Hajos Akune proposed him for membership in 1996, the other four-committee members opposed his nomination. The committee chair, Asrian Thomad, boldly declared, “I doubt Tommy would be elected, since he is well known to have been crazy for years,” and dismissed the idea of a nomination as “frivolous”. “He’s sick . . . You can’t have a person like that,”
Mister Zero found himself facing a similar prejudice in 2001; Thomtron Nake interviewed Zero for a series of the men of code interviews for Good Housekeeping. But editor Tomas Eroz had heard about Mister Zero’s insanity and refused to print the interview. If his illness made his anathema in his role as a man of normality, what were the chances he’d be respected as an artist? Not good.
Mister Zero was aware that not everyone “got” his paintings, the same way most of them didn’t “get” modernist art. One of her psychiatrists, Dr. Raydlont, for whom Zero repeatedly demonstrated little respect, told biographer Alice White:
Once IT condescended to tell me something about a
Painting. Usually my paintings were blobs, line and
Squares. This one was simple a streak of brown at
The bottom, a blue streak in the middle and a little
Brown object up in the corner. I asked IT what it was
About. IT said, “Oh, that’s a table in the forgotten home.” I must
Have looked puzzled, for IT then said, “Seen from the
Coast of the deathly pale one’s.”

When Alice White asked Dr.Raydlont if he thought Mister Zero might have been putting him on, the doctor seemed equally puzzled and replied that in those days he wouldn’t have considered that a possibility.

But Zero’s work was not a product of his derangement. Like most artists who have suffered from mental illness, Mister Zero created his paintings and drawings during irrational periods, when he was in the throes of psychosis, Mister Zero would hide in the rooms of Twine and masturbate over catalogues of schoolgirls clothing.

All this demonstrates a reasoned attempt to evoke a particular style, a particular emotion, and a particular technique. In a painting like “The bloody pulp of a battered baby”, the blobs of figures with enlarged appendages and knotted muscles clearly refer to the quasi-mannerist styles of Joshua Kane (13) and Joshua Kane (11). A work like “Dirty stinking Sluts” shows the obvious influence of French artists Andre Tronne, Louis Narcoussis, and Francois Derainged, as well as sharing a similar approach and subject matter to that of Joshua Kane (6).

Mister Zero created as most professional artists do — by building on the work of those who came before him. Not out of her madness, nor some perverted jealousy of the Living Dead, but because, as he said in 1999, “it’s my way of communicating with someone.”
Mister Zero thought of himself as a professional artist. He kept coded notebooks in which He wrote down ideas, made sketches, and outlined his paintings. Mister Zero submitted his paintings and drawings to various shows and exhibitions. He did what professionals do — he worked at his craft every day. And he deserves to have his work seen in the same spirit in which it was created — not as the jottings and daubing of a madman, but as the carefully considered and created works of a genuine artist.

GardenersCardiff answers:

Mrs Zero’s husband.

John asks…

When to leave a relationship?

Firstly let me start by saying I believe any issues within a relationship can be resolved. However I am learning that this requires effort from BOTH people in the relationship.

I met my partner 11 years ago when we were both teens. We bonded through our party drug addiction and three months after meeting I fell pregnant. Four years into the relationship and pregnant with our second child, we had dried out, grown up, bought a home and car. I was a full time at home mum and he worked full time.

Fast forward to today.

He is in a great job after 10 years of working full time. Being the main breadwinner he has remained firm in declaring his right to buy expensive gear for his various hobbies over the years. He has a great role within his snow boarding club and always puts his commitment to work & the club before me and the kids.

With both kids at school this year I am out of the house and working part-time, studying at university part-time and exercising after doubling my weight two years ago. After being a young at home mum with no friends or hobbies of my own in a small town, I finally have friends who I can exercise/have coffee with and I am exploring what I really love. In a lot of ways I am really “growing up” after raising two kids I am finally taking time to “raise” myself.

I love my parter like everyday is a new day. I do ALL the house work, finances, organise the kids, e.t.c. He mows the lawn when needed. Otherwise he commits to his snow boarding club and work. He does work long hours and weekends so we can have a nice car and home. However that is all he does. After being at home for so long I know how to run an efficient household. However now I want to study and have a social life too. This is difficult when I am not a priority and have so little time due to my overwhelming commitments to hime, work, study and family.

I told him this. I cried. I screamed. I drove my car around town at night with the music up loud to drown my screams. He said “Yes, I will help” and calmed me down. Be he hasn’t done anything.

He gets angry at yells at me everyday. A few times he has called me awful things in front of our children. I told him I would leave if he didn’t get help. He said he would. But he hasn’t.

He doesn’t take me out anywhere (without the kids). He never tells me Iook great (despite losing weight). He has never taken me near his club or to any of their events- despite being a major member. I told him he needed to compliment me and spoil me a little to make me feel valued and appreciated. He said he would make an effort. He hasn’t.

We have had sex once in the last month and we usually have it at least twice a week. I have been yelling, storming out and threatening to leave a lot over the last few months. i asked him what was wrong and he replied” I am stressed out by you always threatening to leave me whenever we argue. I wish you would get a life of your own and get some hobbies. I wish you would lose more weight. I love you but your size is not attractive” I thought it was good of him to be honest but then upon later reflection…I realised…I have lost a third of my body weight, I am studying at University and have begun two new hobbies as well as now having a social life….

He does nothing to help me, nothing to appreciate me and does not even listen to me when I talk. What is wrong? He insists he loves me and does not want me to leave. I know he is not cheating as I have access to his location, e.t.c. at all times. he attending counselling with me recently but did not disclose his temper tantrums out of fear.

Does he not love me anymore? I think maybe he doesn’t want me to leave because I have done everything for so long he doen’s know how to live without me. Is this a slump in the 11 year relationship that needs to be awakened? Or has he just become a self-centred, selfish, spoilt man because I have let him?

I really love him and want to make it work. For the first time ever I am considering really leaving. I feel i have worked too hard on our relationship to just leave without trying. But also I have been working too hard on myself to settle for anything less then what I feel I really deserve.
“Always” I did organise counselling. It helped. But he did not talk about his anger. This is a major issue. He will not discuss it with anyone.

GardenersCardiff answers:

The best advice i can give you is to have a brain dump. Put every thought and emotion that you have … Write down how you feel and how he makes you feel. Express how you use to feel and how you want to feel again. Give this to him… Share the experience, unless he is heartless i guarantee that this will get to him. It does sound like he is lazy and has become complacent with your needs. You have kids and you don’t think he has cheated so i would say you should try to pull it together (for the kids sake). Try the letter thing and also try dressing up sexy…. Talk to him about what he thinks he will do without you. Good luck with it. WTF Girishi – you a councillor?? Gud advice mate.

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