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What do you think of this person’s opinion on race relations?

“Not all white people try to sweep prejudice under the rug as you say. But in 2008 over half the population directly responsible for the kind of suffering black people went through are dead or very freaking close to being dead. The majority of American citizens where born right at the end of the civil rights movement or post civil rights movement.

We respect our black coworkers who work hard to make a living and support their families. We cherish our black friends and the insight and diversity they bring to our lives. We are humbled by the self-sacrifice of our black neighbors who help us in our time of need. However, we don’t respect the black people who continue to perpetuate this cycle of no other life but “thug life.” We do not respect the men and women who squander away their money on drugs, instead of buying school supplies for their kids. We do not respect the black men and women who seek to make us feel bad because we were born white.

I am sorry for the terrible conditions black people where put under but I refuse to feel guilty because I am white. I am married to a black man, I have biracial children and I, as well as my husband are very concerned when it comes to black issues. No I haven’t lived the life of hard knocks many black people have lived but I’ve lived my own rough life and have had my own terrible experiences. I have many black family members, friends and coworkers. Some of them I count as my closes of friends. We share our stories, we support each other and we hope our bonds of friendship will show both black and white people that we can work together.

After extensive conversations with my husband, family and friends we’ve all come to the conclusion SOME black people do need to get over the past. I personally can name at least four black people who grew up in middle class neighborhoods, who went to good schools and had good friends, who got scholarships to college and made something of themselves yet they play the victim constantly. They grew up in suburban neighborhoods but they’re lives where so unfair and hard. People like that (no matter what their skin color) don’t know what a hard life is.
Black people who live their lives under the impression no white person has any concern for them and we ALL out to enslave them. That’s the real BS. I’ve never owned slaves in my life. My family didn’t even come to this country until 22 years ago. No one in my family has ever owned a slave black or otherwise. So please tell me why I should be blamed for something some nitwits did 40-200 years ago?

I have all the compassion in the world for black people. I volunteered in New Orleans after hurricane katrina and I saw first hand the horrible conditions those people went through. I drive through the inner city and I see the squalor they live in but I’m sick and tired of these so called black advocates who don’t really do anything but yell and scream and perpetuate the hatred and violence between black people and white people. I’m sick and tired of hearing black people say things to my husband like “yeah I guess you like a little cream in your coffee.” or “Or you’re a sellout and disgrace to black people. All your doing is allowing yourself to be oppressed by the white people who’ve held our people down for centuries.”

Black people have a lot of right to be bitter and resentful for the things that happened just as I have a lot of right to be bitter and resentful about the racism I’ve experienced at the hands of black people. Somewhere along the line young black people need to realize, yes their is still racism and yes they have experienced it but we all have. They need to realize they have more opportunities today than their parents, grand parents, and great grandparents ever did. They never to realize, until they let go of (but not forget) a past situation that never happened to them, they’ll never be able to go anywhere or do anything in their lives because they won’t be living up to their real potential. At some point EVERYONE has to put that sh*t aside and realize, if we don’t stop, put our differences aside and work towards building each other up, then we’ll never have a peaceful society to bring our children up in.”

There are something’s ONLY southerner’s know?

Willys cynical thought for the day;

Some of us learn from the mistakes of others; the rest of us have to be the fugging others!

Only a Southerner knows the difference between a hissie fit and a conniption fit, and that you don’t “HAVE” them, you “PITCH” them.

Only a Southerner knows how many fish, collard greens, turnip greens, peas, beans, etc., make up “a mess.”

Only a Southerner can show or point out to you the general direction of “yonder.”

Only a Southerner knows exactly how long “directly” is, … as in: “Going to town, be back directly.”

Even Southern babies know that “Gimme some sugar” is not a request for the white, granular sweet substance that sits in a pretty little bowl in the middle of the table.

All Southerners know exactly when “by and by” is. They might not use the term, but they know the concept well.

Only a Southerner knows instinctively that the best gesture of solace for a neighbor who’s got trouble is a plate of hot fried chicken and a big bowl of cold potato salad. If the neighbor’s trouble is a real crisis, they also know to add a large banana puddin!

Only Southerners grow up knowing the difference between “right near” and “a right far piece.” They also know that “just down the road” can be 1 mile or 20.

Only a Southerner, both knows and understands, the difference between a redneck, a good ol’ boy, and po’ white trash.

No true Southerner would ever assume that the car with the flashing turn signal is actually going to make a turn.

A Southerner knows that “fixin” can be used as a noun, a verb, or an adverb.

Only Southerners make friends while standing in lines… and when we’re “in line,” …. we talk to everybody!

Put 100 Southerners in a room and half of them will discover they’re related, even if only by marriage.

In the South, y’all is singular, . all y’all is plural.

Southerners know grits come from corn and how to eat them.

Every Southerner knows tomatoes with eggs, bacon, grits, and coffee are perfectly wonderful; that red eye gravy is also a breakfast food; and that fried green tomatoes are not a breakfast food.

When you hear someone say, “Well, I caught myself lookin’,” you know you are in the presence of a genuine Southerner!

Only true Southerners say “sweet tea” and “sweet milk.” Sweet tea indicates the need for sugar and lots of it — we do not like our tea unsweetened. “Sweet milk” means you don’t want buttermilk.

And a true Southerner knows you don’t scream obscenities at little old ladies who drive 30 MPH on the freeway. You just say, “Bless her heart” … and go your own way.

To those of you who are still a little embarrassed by your Southerness: Take two tent revivals and a dose of sausage gravy and call me in the morning. Bless your heart!

And to those of you who are still having a hard time understanding all this Southern stuff, … bless your hearts, I hear they are fixin’ to have classes on Southernness as a second language!

And for those that are not from the South but have lived here for a long time, all y’all need a sign to hang on y’alls front porch that reads “I ain’t from the South, but I got here as fast as I could!” Muaaa-ha-ha-ha-haha!

http://www.total-knowledge.com/~willyblues/
From; Willys Jokes archives! Best jokes, anywhere!

My boyfriend is wonderful in most ways, but after 10 months is still insecure and controlling.?

We are actually semi engaged… We are now in love and living together. I work 3 days, 2 nites, and off 2 days. Last nite was very busy at work, , we close at 9, then have 1/2 hour to 1 1/2 side work, (I’m a waitress). So I got home around 10:30. I see him out on the porch waiting, frowning. I open the car door, he says hi, and is obviously not in a happy mood. The stage is set for me to get angry at this attitude. I try to avoid a conflict, come in smiling, although tired, saying what a good nite I had; I made great $; did some shopping earlier on the way to work; look what I bought your mother for Christmas… I was just coming home from work in a good mood. Well, he (still not speaking, yet frowning) looks at his watch and says yea, but look what time it is !!!!!!!!!!!! This isn’t the first time we’ve had this kind of confrontation, and It really infuriates me! He had 2 previous relationships in which he was treated badly, cheated on, ripped off, etc., but so have I, and who hasn’t by the time we are 40-50? Anyway, I am very independent, I don’t “need” him, even though he treats me like a queen. I can support myself very well, pay my own bills, know quite well how to make my own coffee and wash dishes, open my own car door, etc.. (I think it is very sweet for him to do these things for me, and he enjoys it). I’m not totally able to do carpenter work or electrical, or plumbing, but can pay to have it done if I was living alone and needed it done. (I own my own house, he owns his, but we like mine better.) From the start, he was possessive, tried to control me and I broke up with him a few times because of it. I let him know he does not own me. I am me, and he is him! I do what I want, and I “want” to be with him. But I don’t HAVE to be! Little things I do, like choose to bring a buggy into wal-mart from outside instead of getting one when I enter, bother him. Buying a box of Christmas cards for the 23 people I work with bothered him, becuz he wouldn’t do that… Little things that make me be me, he gives me these disapproving looks, which really make me mad. A few months ago I wrote a list of pros and cons i feel about him. There were like 10 pros, just 4 cons. He vowed to change the cons, which were to do with being possessive and controlling, insecure, jealous… And he does try! I’m just not sure how long I can wait for him to master it. Last nite, I felt I’d rather come home to only my dog, (my kids are grown and gone), than to come home to someone who is mad at me AGAIN for nothing. He says he’s not mad, but doesn’t know what to call it. Anyway I marched into my room took my bubblebath, and got in my bed, all with my door closed cuz then I WAS mad. He slept on the couch.
Oh, he is also uncomfortable when we are around other people, even family, and I think it’s becuse it takes my attention from him. He has been jealous of my time with my neice when she came to visit, also my daughter who lives in NC! and came for a visit, We had gone to visit her, and he stuck to me like glue, when he could have been out with her husband doing man stuff, EX: working on the barn, building something in his shed… Any ideas how I can help him get over this nonsense? We have been thru this so many times now. I really do love him, for many reasons. But it is to the point that I can almost predict what will happen when I do one of many things in routine life. I have never given him any reason to distrust me. If I wanted someone else I would first get rid of him! I am not a cheater! (And neither is he!)
HELP?