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   Apr 27

Your Questions About Gardening

Betty asks…

Does this story go a little way to renewing your faith in man? A sweet Xmas tale.?

Many years ago I was living in Africa and around 4am one morning 4 days before Xmas my husband (the only boyfriend I had ever had) woke me up to say he felt really ill, which was very unlike him, he was an aircraft engineer who played squash and was muscly and fit. I went to make him a cup of tea and give him a cuddle, around 4 minutes later he died in my arms of a heart attack.
A couple of days later I went to the bank to get some money, I had to buy some food and at least a gesture of Xmas for my two toddler daughters, but the bank had put a hold on the bank account because of his sudden death. So there I was 6,000 miles from home, two tiny daughters, no money, little food and it was Xmas, my heart was broken and I was barely coping.
I got back into my waiting taxi and broke down, I howled with grief, the poor taxi driver didn’t know what to do, but was kind and listened.

Xmas morning at 6am we woke to the sound of a hand bell and there in the garden my daughters and I saw SANTA! (okay it was the taxi driver dressed as Santa), he had food, presents and some cash.
It still gets mentioned every year even though my daughters are now grown with children of their own.
I get chocked up every Xmas because it always gets mentioned and I think Len (the taxi driver) truly had the spirit of Xmas.
I wish you and your loved ones a beautiful, pain free, happy and peaceful Xmas, kind wishes Mia.

Edit: Eva, He was an aircraft engineer for Mirage fighter planes, built at Atlas aircraft corp in Kempton park, Jo’burg.
Edit 2: Eva, http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Atlas_Aircraft_Corporation
http://www.aviastar.org/manufacturers/0238.html

GardenersCardiff answers:

Sweet. That’s what it’s all about.

There’s a policeman who shows up at our local woman’s shelter each year, not dressed as Santa but in casual clothes. He learns the names of kids in advance and calls out to each, explaining “Santa was at your house but couldn’t find you. He asked me if I would bring this toy for you.” One at a time, each child from an abused family is made to feel special and wanted.

Zilla, it’s great to see you back.

Charles asks…

How to cope with a disrespectful Dad..?

My Dad has been married to my Mum for 25 years and hes a total pervert. Every time we as a family are in the car driving somewhere and some chick is walking by he turns his head literally 360 degrees to look. On holiday in a hot country is the worst, he stares at all the girls/women who are at an average size to very thin..so obvious that even my little sister has noticed. He buys the sun paper everyday on holiday and my mum comments saying “Oh, I wonder why you bought the sun” he says “for the sports”. But then he made himself a cup of tea and went out on the balcony where no one could see him. So me and my brother looked out the window and he was staring at the girl on page 3..when we told mum she said “i cant believe you would think that of daddy, you do realize there is news on that page”..But wen you see it with your own eyes, you just know. Its almost like my mum knows what hes like but…tries to forget about it. They have argued on the holiday when my mum catches him staring at women. When we go to beaches there is always a female topless, and my mum said “oh great”, and my dad said “whats the problem” I said nothing dad and my mum said “don’t worry sabrina, dad would have noticed before anyone.” And he said “well if you don’t like it move away, or ask her to move away then!”. If wwe ever happen to say anything negative about a girl he goes mental saying “Stop putting people down!” and yet he can slag off a fat woman….We’ve been under suspision that hes texting a girl for a good few months now, how he dissapears upstairs and when we go up he rushes out his room and comes out with some crap “oh I think I need a nap, how about you?”. And me and my bro have caught him on his phone from time to time. How can me and my siblings deal with it? I feel so sorry for my mum…and yet ive grown to HATE my own Dad.
my brother and I have gone to my mum and mentioned everything, she either gets all mad on us “you guys are ridiculous” and only once she has confronted him about the phone thing and my dad just denies it, when I have read a message from a female but nothing bad, just a load of kisses..But that was one message, God knows what else she has been sending..Yet he cant admit hes texting a woman
He has affected me in some ways, hes made me think that all men are like him..when I am in a relationship with a very loyal man, and we argue alot because im scared he may one day do what my dad does..I tried to look upto my dad..But Ive learnt one thing from him…that his type, is the type id definately avoid.

GardenersCardiff answers:

I understand what you mean. My parents just recently divorced and we found out he had been cheating on her for a while. It’s ok to be upset or mad. But first you need to talk to your siblings and see how they feel. Then maybe all of you need to confront your dad about it and make sure he understands how you feel and that it upsets you. Just be honest and hope for the best.

Hope I helped.

Nancy asks…

The greatest quotes in the world?

1. Do not think dishonestly.
2. The Way is in training.
3. Become acquainted with every art.
4. Know the Ways of all professions.
5. Distinguish between gain and loss in worldly matters.
6. Develop intuitive judgment and understanding for everything
7. Percieve those things which cannot be seen.
8. Pay attention even to trifles.
9. Do nothing which is of no use.
- Musashi Miyamoto, A Book Of Five Rings (Go Rin No Sho)

“Do nothing which is of no use.”
Miyamoto Musashi

“In battle, if you you make your opponent flinch, you have already won.”
Miyamoto Musashi

“Do not seek to follow in the footsteps of the men of old; seek what they sought.”
Matsuo Basho

“There are but two powers in the world, the sword and the mind. In the long run the sword is always beaten by the mind.”
- Napoleon Bonaparte

The no-mind not-thinks no-thoughts about no-things – The Buddah

“Showing off is the fool’s idea of glory.”
Bruce Lee

“To hell with circumstances; I create opportunities.”
Bruce Lee

“A quick temper will make a fool of you soon enough.”
Bruce Lee

“Knowledge will give you power, but character respect.”
Bruce Lee

“If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else. It will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them.”
Bruce Lee

“The Japanese master Nan-in gave audience to a professor of philosophy. Serving tea, Nan-in filled his visitor’s cup, and kept pouring. The professor watched the overflow until he could restrain himself no longer: “Stop! The cup is over full, no more will go in.” Nan-in said: “Like this cup, you are full of your own opinions and speculations. How can I show you Zen unless you first empty your cup.”

“…when you have eliminated the impossible, whatever remains, however improbable, must be the truth.”
Sir Arthur Conan Doyle (1859 – 1930), (Sherlock Holmes)

“It has long been an axiom of mine that the little things are infinitely the most important.”
Sir Arthur Conan Doyle (1859 – 1930), (Sherlock Holmes)

“You see, but you do not observe.”
Sir Arthur Conan Doyle (1859 – 1930), (Sherlock Holmes)

“A man should keep his little brain attic stocked with all the furniture that he is likely to use, and the rest he can put away in the lumber-room of his library, where he can get it if he wants it.”
Arthur Conan Doyle (Sherlock Holmes)

“A trusty comrade is always of use; and a chronicler still more so.”
Arthur Conan Doyle (Sherlock Holmes)

“Come, Watson, come!” he cried. The game is afoot.”
Arthur Conan Doyle (Sherlock Holmes)

“Holy men? Holy cabbages! Holy bean-pods! What do they do but live and suck in sustenance and grow fat? If that be holiness, I could show you hogs in this forest who are fit to head the calendar. Think you it was for such a life that this good arm was fixed upon my shoulder, or that head placed upon your neck? There is work in the world, man, and it is not by hiding behind stone walls that we shall do it.” –
— Sir Arthur Conan Doyle

“Skill is fine, and genius is splendid, but the right contacts are more valuable than either.” –
— Sir Arthur Conan Doyle (Sherlock Holmes)

“I have learned never to ridicule any man’s opinion, however strange it may seem” –
— Sir Arthur Conan Doyle

There comes a time when for every addition of knowledge you forget something that you knew before. It is of the highest importance, therefore, not to have useless facts elbowing out the useful ones.
Sir Arthur Conan Doyle (1859 – 1930) (Sherlock Holmes in A Study in Scarlet)

“It is easy to go down into Hell; night and day, the gates of dark Death stand wide; but to climb back again, to retrace one’s steps to the upper air – there’s the rub, the task.”
Virgil

“Mind moves matter.”
Virgil

“The only safety for the conquered is to expect no safety.”
Virgil

“The world cares very little about what a man or woman knows; it is what a man or woman is able to do that counts. ”
Virgil

“There’s a snake lurking in the grass.”
Virgil

“Come what may, all bad fortune is to be conquered by endurance. ”
Virgil

“I fear the Greeks, even when they bring gifts.”
Virgil

“Flectere si nequeo Superos,
Acheronta movebo.”
(If I cannot move heaven
I’ll raise hell)
Virgil

“I am an Epicurean. I consider the genuine (not the imputed) doctrines of Epicurus as containing everything rational in moral philosophy which Greek and Roman leave to us.”
Thomas Jefferson

“Veni, Vidi Vici”
(I came, I saw, I conquered. )
Julius Caesar

“I love the name of honor, more than I fear death.”
Julius Caesar

“If you must break the law, do it to seize power: in all other cases observe it.”
Julius Caesar

GardenersCardiff answers:

“Do not seek to follow in the footsteps of the men of old; seek what they sought.”
Matsuo Basho

Love and blessings Don

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