For the Best Gardeners in the Cardiff Area

   Aug 22

Your Questions About Gardening

Ruth asks…

What are some of your favourite quotes?

Here are some of mine (:
- Hate is easy, love takes courage.
- Its a beautiful day, now watch some idiot screw it up.
- True love never dies.
- Do what makes you happy, be who with makes you smile, laugh as much as your breath,
and love as long as you live.
- When you run from something it only stays with you longer. If you fight something, it only makes you stronger.

GardenersCardiff answers:

Dream as if you’ll live forever. Live as if you’ll die today. James Dean

Nobody deserves your tears, but whoever deserves them will not make you cry. Gabriel Garcia Marquez

A ship in harbor is safe, but that’s not what ships are built for. John A. Shedd

I destroy my enemies when I make them my friends.
Abraham Lincoln

Destiny is no matter of chance. It is a matter of choice: It is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved. William Jennings Bryan

Count the garden by the flowers, never by the leaves that fall. Count your life with smiles and not the tears that roll. Author Unknown

A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty. Winston Churchill

Remember, there are no mistakes, only lessons. Love yourself, trust your choices, and everything is possible. Cherie Carter-Scott

If the essence of my being has caused a smile to have appeared upon your face or a touch of joy within your heart.Then in living – I have made my mark. Thomas L. Odem Jr

You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams. Dr. Seuss

Every man desires to live long, but no man wishes to be old. Jonathan Swift

Dare to reach out your hand into the darkness, to pull another hand into the light. Norman B. Rice

The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart. Elisabeth Foley

Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars. Les Brown

You learn to like someone when you find out what makes them laugh, but you can never truly love someone until you find out what makes them cry. Author Unknown

Love your enemies. It makes them so damned mad. P.D. East

Don’t look where you fall, but where you slipped. African Proverb

He who has nothing to die for has nothing to live for. Moroccan Proverb

You only live once; but if you live it right, once is enough. Adam Marshall

Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts. Winston Churchill

Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared. Buddha

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Have a nice day! :)

Paul asks…

How did people fertilize lawns , plants before chemical fertilizers?

I am imagining they probably threw out a thin layer of sifted cow manure on the lawn?? as well as around plants?

anyone know for sure?

how often and frequently did people do this?

and what about broadleaf weeds in the lawn?

Thanks for your answers!
Does anyone know when people began to really use chemical fertilizers and herbicides?
What did they use for pre-emergent ?

GardenersCardiff answers:

Until around 1900 there were no lawns except for the very rich and they used to graze sheep on their swaths of grass to weed, mow and feed the lawn. Very small lawns were hand cut with scissors.

Sometime in the late 1800 the lawn mower was invented but it was loud, big, dangerous and expensive so it did not catch on at first. When they made mowers smaller and easier to use people started putting in lawns and getting rid of their veg and flower gardens.

Chemical fertilizers came into their own after WWII, around 1947 as did herbicides.

I don’t believe the early lawn farmers had monocropped lawns as we see today and likely were not as phobic about clover (which is a great addition to the lawn as it adds a lot of nitrogen which grass needs). And this is one of the ways early lawns were fertilized-they were not just one or two species of plant but a large hodgepodge of pasture plants.

Chris asks…

How can i tell my mum she is asking too much of me? I feel worn out?

I am a 16 year old boy and i live with my mum, and my little sister who is 10. From as young as i can remember my mum has always had a depression. As a result it has always been hard for me, and difficult to understand why i was different. I don’t stay with my dad so that just left my mum. From around 8 years old to 12, i used to misbehave and looking back now i think i underlying had behavioral issues. It was hard for me as i would see all my friends and their mums and dads go to the park and get taken places while my mum would never take me anywhere. I had to become mature early and go to the shops for my mum and help around alot. This mean’t i was deprived of my childhood, but i made a choice, and that was to stick by my mum and help wherever i can.

6 months ago my mum became really ill and was in the hospital for 3 months. She had septicemia and had major liver issues, she was really lucky to make it alive if i am honest and at one point i thought i would loose her. She came out the hospital and was told that she need’s to take it easy for the good part of 3 years at least. Before she was in hospital for 3 months she was in university, but she was told that all that had to stop and she had to look after herself and focus on her health. I was so grateful that my mum made it and even like 7 months on she has made an amazing recovery. The problem is i think my mum is starting to take advantage and push her luck a little. I am used to letting my mother get away with things and mood swings ect because i have always known she is depressed and at the end of the day i have to be a lot more mature about the situation. My mum has made an amazing recovery, she is back to normal in the sense that she is physically able to do things around the house and drive short distances, but just not physically able to take a job or go to uni. Basically i have my exams in 1-2 months and i am busy trying to juggle school and making my mum happy but i think she is pushing it. Like when she cooks dinner she turns off the cooker and goes to sit down and calls me from my room and tells me to come down and serve her, and she nags me to do it as if it is urgent, and because i don’t want any conflict i just do it.

Another instance is when she wakes up she goes to sit down and tells me to make her a cup of tea, now your probably thinking i am being petty, but i am not. This week i have gone shopping twice for my mother, i went to get her forms signed for a few things and i have done this 3 days this week. Not only this but i hoover the stairs, i mop the living room and i hoover the kitchen and clean up the garden too. But i feel angry when my mum takes advantage of it, she is more than capable of serving herself but its like she doesn’t want to she just makes me do it. This morning i was revising and she said “why are you not doing the dishes?” i said “Because i am busy revising” and you could see she got angry, but it’s not as if i do the dishes anyway i mean that’s what she usually does. Its to the point my friends have noticed that my mums always wanting me to do things, its like shes so strict and never gives me any space. Whenever i am in my room she always says “why don’t you come down to spend time with me”. I am 16 years old and i need my space as well as revision time for my exams, it’s as if she can’t comprehend that. Before my mum got ill, when she was healthy and not ill she always used to make me serve her dinner, one time i stood up for myself and said “do you think its fair that you call me from my room to serve you when your capable of doing it yourself” and she took an immature mood swing. I basically want a way of telling my mum to stop asking too much of me, i am only 16 and if i take too much on my plate i will brakedown.

My question is, how can i tell my mum she is being rather unreasonable without hurting her feelings, i mean whenever i tell her about something i am unhappy about regarding herself she always goes in a mood, i basically want to tell her how i feel because i don’t think she understands. I have no family that can help to speak on my behalf. Also talking to someone in my school would really be the last thing i would ever do. I like my personal life and don’t like sharing it with others. I would want to tell my mum this myself. I don’t think i can bring myself to tell a gp or a doctor. Like honestly, i really can’t tell anyone, i want this matter dealt with internally, i don’t need someone to fight my corner, i am a capable indipendant 16 year old and i just want a way of telling my mum this without hurting her feelings.

I basically want to tell her that she needs to do what she can for herself (ie serving herself) and also give my my space (she always moans that i am spending too much time alone and i never know how to argue my case). Thanks alot, 10 points for best answer!

GardenersCardiff answers:

I have been in your position and I fully understand. It’s hard to live with a mentally ill parent let alone care for one at such a young age, and it is horrible to have to mature early and miss out on your teen years, in my opinion they’re the most important and vital years of your life.

My mother suffers depression, my father suffers schizophrenia.
Unfortunately, no one truly recovers from depression, I understand that your mother is getting on your nerves being so reliant and I can see how she’s taken advantage.

If I was in your position again, and I had a lot of school work that needed attention, I’d speak to my mother about getting a carer in. I’d explain that I wouldn’t be able to help out as much anymore because I need to get my head in some books, and I’d discuss getting a little help even if only for a little while. That way you’ll have someone else who will help your mother with the cleaning and the cooking, etc. If she’s not willing to do this, I’m sure it’ll give her the push to manage some things on her own. It’ll possibly make her realise how much she’s relied on you.

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